Are you a Runner, Walker, or a Jumper in Finding a soulmate?

Finding a partner is like any other skill in life; it takes talent, education, and practice. The more information, education, and experience you have, the better you will be. Through gaining all three, your chances of mastering a skill are the highest. Shakespeare alluded to these three styles of learning when he said, “Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.” Another way of putting it is that there are runners, walkers, and jumpers. Let’s explore these styles in greater detail.

THREE STYLES OF LEARNING

Style One: Runners

Some people are just gifted. They are born with an enormous talent. For example, they can sit down at a piano and practically start playing right away. They can just hear a song and then play it. They don’t need to read music. These gifted students or prodigies are the runners. They quickly find success and achievement in a particular endeavor. In relationships, runners are those few who just meet someone, fall in love, and live happily ever after. They are the minority. Most of us are not runners.

Style Two: Walkers

Most people are walkers. They learn from a teacher and through trial and error. These people do not have greatness given to them. Instead they earn it, they attain it, they seek it out and find it, they do something to make it happen. These people discover their talent through education and a series of life experiences. In learning to play the piano, for example, they gradually learn to play with the expert guidance of a teacher and by learning to read music.

In relationships, this can be likened to learning from each relationship how to understand and “read” the opposite sex correctly. By steadily moving ahead, walkers eventually find the right person for them. Every relationship assists them in moving on to finding the right person for them. Through taking the time to move through the different stages of dating and ending relationships with a positive note, they are able to hit the target and find their soul mate.


Style Three: Jumpers

Jumpers are late bloomers. They have greatness thrust upon them. For many years they may appear not to be moving forward or progressing. They may even seem to be going backward. They may practice and practice but to no avail. Although it may seem that they are not learning, they are. What goes in eventually comes out. With enough observation of others playing the piano, with enough listening to music and enough practice, they just start playing one day. Einstein was a jumper when it came to learning to speak. As a child, he said nothing for years. He just listened to others speak. He observed and took it all in. Then, at five years old, he began to speak in full sentences. He jumped from saying nothing to complete sentences and skipped the stages in between. In relationships, jumpers meet the right person for them long after all their friends are married. To their great surprise, they find someone, fall in love, and live happily ever after. There are many people who are forty or fifty years old who have not gotten married or have not experienced a deeply intimate relationship. As a result of reaching a certain level of maturity, their innate talent and wisdom for having a loving and intimate relationship suddenly emerges and they meet their soul mate.

Even if you are a jumper and your time is yet to come, the wisdom of the five stages will assist you in having more fulfilling relationships until the time is right for you. By understanding these three different styles of learning, we can more easily appreciate the importance of the five stages of dating. As we continue to get closer to finding true love, it is easy to be thrown off track if we lack an understanding of our differences.

From the book of Mars and Venus on a date by JOHN GRAY, PH.D. ( Recommended to read the book)